Green Card Update and other matters

Yesterday, we came home to a letter from the INS (USCIS), inviting us once again to come into their office for an interview for the Ukrainian’s green card on October 16. We are trying not to get too excited — given what happened last time (they changed our address to Brooklyn and canceled our interview). But maybe, hopefully…all will turn out well.

Also, in updates:  The Ukrainian received the raise he was lobbying for (you may have gathered that from the last post). This means he can quit the library job — which he did. I am hoping this means we will have more time to spend together, but I’m not so sure if it will work out that way. The extra time in his life will — rightfully — probably go towards his job and his studies.

Post-wedding denouement:  Definitely continues. Probably not helped by the fact that we get to spend so little time together. And my job involves spending 8+ hours alone in my cubicle. And the economy…the economy prevents me from engaging in fabulous retail therapy — like those $1200 Purple Patent leather Christian Louboutin boots I drool over? Nope. I can’t even entertain the thought. Sadly, there is no replacement in the <$200 category either.

Future children:  Yes, to clarify from the last post, we are having more concrete conversations about when to start trying for a family. Optimistic hopes puts at us beginning our efforts (should be fun!) in mid-December. That would allow us both to spend more time at the gym, dentist, etc. getting our bodies to prenatal perfection! (Is that even possible in our 30s?). The problem is that if we are successful, we wouldn’t be able to travel to Kiev in the Spring for our Russian Orthodox wedding. So…wedding or baby…baby or wedding…

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2 Responses to “Green Card Update and other matters”

  1. Bad Home Cook Says:

    Hi – I saw your post on Judith Warner’s fine Op-Ed this morning (I agree with everything she says!), and I came to your site. Your life seems to have many parallels with mine ten years ago. We, too, had our daughter in SF, first in a studio, then in a one-bedroom in the inner Richmond District. My husband worked with Jewish Russian immigrants at the JCCSF (he is English, met him in Israel, and he spoke fluent Russian and French. Ah, the Brits). We were surrounded by Ruski neighbors, and our daughter even had her own Baba, and understood Russian before we moved to Berkeley a few years later. I write about a lot of this in my book “Planet Parenthood: Adapting to your new Life Form,” a funny book about “turning into a parent.” You can probably pick up a used copy at Green Apple Books, if it’s still there on Clement Street.
    Anyway, just wanted to say hi, and to tell you there are absolutely no ill effects to having a kid in a one-bedroom. The Russian immigrants we knew did it as a matter of course, and with no complaints. We miss SF…and Gordo’s Taquaria!

  2. puigirl Says:

    Yes, yes…the Russians think nothing of raising a family in a 1 BR. My husband grew up in them. When we first moved in together, he thought we should rent out the bedroom as having 2 whole rooms + kitchen all too ourselves was rather luxurious! Luckily, I convinced him that 3 would be a crowd (though not when the 3rd will be a baby).

    I will definitely have to have a look at your book. My husband wants a child as much as I do, but has not been around babies much. He is hoping to come across “Fatherhood for Dummies” or the like.

    And yes, SF has the best taquerias!! We are huge fans of Papalote’s. But Berkeley is nice too. Hopefully, you have more space there. 🙂


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